Recently I have been hearing, reading, or seeing (on TV) people talking about how they need to have this big discussion with their spouse. It's either before the baby is born, or after the baby is born and they realize they are not on the same page. I guess I'm at a loss. I don't know that there is anything Michael and I really need to "talk out".
First, let me say that some of the questions don't really apply to us. For example, to circumsize or not to circumsize. We are having a girl, so it's irrelevant. (Although, I had no idea it was becoming such a hot topic. I thought it was sort of a given?!) Or, to baptize or not to baptize and in what church. We don't believe in infant baptism, and the people that have to "discuss" this are usually people that don't really have a church. We have a church, and she will be dedicated.
I think we were raised similar in some areas and very different in others, but overall we have the same beliefs, hopes, dreams and goals for our family and our child(ren). We also have the same basic views on discipline, structure, and rules. Am I being naive? Am I missing something?
We know each others strengths and weaknesses. I know that when it comes to having a baby, there are times that Michael will lean on me and my knowledge of children. I also know that there will be times ahead where I will lean on him and his knowledge. Overall, we are a very good team. We have a pretty easy marriage (at least I think we do). We are both very verbal, and I'm sure we would say something if necessary. We both are also willing to compromise. I know everyone says having a baby "changes things" and makes a marriage harder. Since I don't have one yet, I don't know what to expect. I really think we'll be able to work together pretty well though.
So to all you veteran parents out there... Did you sit down and have a talk about how things are going to be done? Do you wish you would have? Is there something that you think Michael and I need to "talk out" before the baby is born?
I will say that the one thing we already have been discussing (and need to keep discussing) is what we want to happen to our children in case something should happen to both of us. We know we need to get a will in place. We've had a brief discussion about it already. We pretty much agree on the "checklist" of things we want in the person(s) we will be leaving our children to. A few names have been thrown out, but nothing has been settled. Other than that, I just don't know what there would be to discuss.
I really am curious, so I look forward to your answers! :)